Fall in love all over again

According to experts, those heady days at the beginning of a relationship when sexual energy between you and your loved one has enough power to illuminate the national grid only lasts an average of eighteen months to two years. Enough for our ancestors to become emotionally bonded and played maybe, but these days want more of our sperm donor associations meeting of hunters, we want a lover, a soulmate and a best friend, especially in one. Forget lying and thinking of England, involving other sexual and emotionally satisfied for life.

The birds and the bees
No doubt about it - the couple do together stay together. A breakdown of sexual activity is one of the most commonly cited reasons for the partners will look elsewhere Whoopee. And while that might sound like just a weak excuse, the couple whose libido goes to bed every night only you can begin to seem like a valid point.

Part of this undoubtedly is because sex is so rare that only on the bump and grind, especially in a relationship. Sex is intimate, it is (ideally) no inhibitions and a long-term relationship, especially when it can so often feel like everything has been said, is a great way to keep the concerns of the mortgage and who is Time to clean the loo and have a little time to rediscover why he wanted to share a bathroom cabinet with others first.

Well connected sex oxytocin, a 'bonding' chemical that creates a sense of closeness between couples. The good news is that sex more - and better - the more oxytocin is released. The bad news, of course, is that the opposite is true.

It is rather a cruel joke then, is not it, that just when we need it most, after the first two years of unmitigated lust, we are less and less inclined to want to take our love without a prescription medicine. The solution? Write yourself a prescription sex, of course.

Exactly why we still believe that sex in long-term relationships will always be as impulsive as it was in the old days, it is disconcerting, especially when the anecdotal - not scientific matters - evidence is otherwise. You may not want to be so prescriptive that it is Wednesday and Saturday, ahem, midnight - that quickly became as dull and dutiful as Eastenders four nights each week - but missing a very pleasant time for sex oxytocin floods bring back, putting you and your partner firmly back on the train of the gang to feel good.

Let's Get Physical
Of course, that triggered in the early days (which cast a sidelong glance, you can simply walk into the room) are generally not cut the time. Thank the Lord then to the sexual liberation of the High Street. Stimulating sex treats and toys are available through the earth, ready and willing to comply with the lightest and darkest fantasies. Talk to your partner about what you both want - the conversation would be sufficient to excite a latent interest - and be prepared to experiment.

Of course, the point is that approach not only demonstrate that spiders can jump (although if that works for both, why not?). Similarly, a rule to try-anything-once can be fun, but make a pact to be honest about whether something or not do it for you and I agree that if this is the case you will move to a mutually satisfactory terrain.

Remember also that the fact that we have been together for years does not mean you have remained the same. One reason sex becomes stale is because it becomes familiar. All sex toys in the world can not help you see beyond their own preconceptions about your partner. Look at your partner with fresh eyes, the way people who are first to do so. With a little luck will get them interested in him both inside and outside the sheets.

Do not forget to stimulate other areas of your relationship, either. After five, ten or fifteen or more years together it's ridiculous to think that you put the same emphasis on sex as it did when you first met. Spend time together doing joint activities, go to coffee or dinner in which pre-dates promise not to talk about paying bills and child care. Stimulate the mind of one another and there is a good probability that the opportunity to encourage each other agencies will continue. Most importantly, be intimate with others - sharing secrets and affection, which is a relation, not a one-night stand. A good sex life reflects a good relationship and that takes time, empathy and a good sprinkling of laughter shared to achieve.